THE DIFFERENCE ONE PERSON CAN MAKE

In the 1990s, I was in a bad place. As Operations Officer aboard a 270-foot Coast Guard cutter, I had just endured a grueling year under a tough and difficult Commanding Officer. I was frustrated, tired, and stuck in a cycle of self-doubt. With a new Captain about to arrive, I was ready to resign my commission and leave the military altogether.

Then the new Captain walked aboard.

From the moment he arrived, it was clear: this man was different. He carried himself with energy, precision, and a commanding presence that inspired respect. His leadership style was both demanding and supportive. One line from his command philosophy discussion stuck with me:

💡 “If it becomes clear at any point that I know more about your job than you do, things are not going to go well for you.”

At first, I was intimidated. That seemed to be an unrealistic expectation based on the fact this was his 5th ship and his vast experience at sea. I thought ... of course he is going to know more than me.

But over time, I realized it wasn’t a threat—it was a challenge to master my role, to surpass expectations, and to grow.

He set a high bar but supported us every step of the way. He had my back, even when I made mistakes. His belief in me gave me the confidence to push beyond my limits.

Under his leadership, I transformed. I became better at my job, more confident in my abilities, and—for the first time in this job—proud of the work I was doing. I even extended my sea duty for another year (no one does that) just to serve under him for a longer period of time.

The Captain never called himself a mentor, but that’s exactly what he was. He didn’t just teach skills; he reshaped how I saw myself and my potential.

The Takeaway

Mentorship doesn’t always come with a formal title or structured program. It happens when someone sees potential in you and invests in your growth.

If you find yourself under the guidance of someone who challenges and believes in you, lean in. That kind of leadership doesn’t just impact your career—it transforms your life.

Character prevails. 💪